- It has allowed me to develop my career between children, and with better planning could allow even more career development for others.
- It really does free the parent from having to meet the demands and pressures of two children close together in age, thus allowing parents and children more time in one-to-one interaction for a more supportive and relaxed relationship. My oldest son, Riley is my best friend and we have a connection most parents/children struggle to achieve.
- While I've heard that the larger the age gap the better an older child's self esteem, it didn't quite work out that way for us. Sometimes alternative family structures stink.
- My oldest isn't particularly jealous of my younger son. He understands why a baby/toddler needs more attention.
- They adore each other. Truly adore each other. Riley is like a 3rd parent to Hayden. He always has his best interests at heart and will stick up for him against all odds.
- He is sort of built in child care. I'm not leaving my 2 year old at home alone with my 9 year old but if I need to take a shower Riley is more than capable of entertaining and keeping alive his younger brother for 15-20 minutes.
- Delivery complications. My second cesarean was much harder to recover from than my first.
- I frequently feel as though I'm being pulled in 2 completely different directions. They have almost no mutual interests.